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If the Buddha dated by Charlotte Sophia Kasl, , Penguin/Arkana edition, in English. Editorial Reviews. Review. Praise for If the Buddha Dated and Charlotte Kasl “[ Charlotte Kasl] Religion & Spirituality site eBooks @ venxilinapsee.tk Editorial Reviews. From Publishers Weekly. Last year, psychotherapist Charlotte Kasl explored site Store; ›; site eBooks; ›; Health, Fitness & Dieting.
This book redirected me to a healthier and more loving place--a place where I learn to love and respect myself before getting involved with anyone else.
Yes, the urge to feel loved and have romance in my life is still there but now I look at it with different eyes--now I ask myself, what is this loneliness signaling? Am I loving and nurturing mysel What an appropriate book at this point in my life. Am I loving and nurturing myself fully right now?
I am learning, albeit slowly, how to soothe my own anxieties and tenderly love myself without resorting to dating. It's a tough journey, especially for someone admittedly has a "dating addiction" but this book has surely helped a lot.
Kasl, an incredibly fascinating woman, begins with a little background on Buddhism and reminding the reader of the 4 noble truths: With this in mind, we can contemplate on how we push our agendas on the world and, subsequently, other people including and especially our love interests Admittedly, I struggle with this constantly and it was very apparent in my most recent relationships so it definitely hit home and called for some self-reflection.
In addition, Kasl discusses how anxiety is inherent in most relationships because they resurrect the feelings of attachment we had with our mother or primary caregiver. We were once completely merged with our mother and, unconsciously, we still desire that feeling of complete and utter connection.
We want someone to take care of us, soothe us, comfort us.
But we are adults now. Therein lies the problem. She reminds us that this trap is easy to fall into, especially when first starting a relationship. Kasl is adamant about this fact--that we need to be happy with ourselves and be okay with letting a relationship end, if it does.
Our ego tricks us into getting into a state of panic at the possibility of loss but if we relax and realize that this is just a moment in life and that people will always come and go and that we will continue to live we will be happier and appreciative of the learning experiences that come with each relationship. Throughout the book, Kasl always mentions how the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves and how if we learn to fully love and accept every aspect of ourselves, we will be tremendously happy, in or out of a relationship: Dec 31, Geordie Korper rated it really liked it.
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Thanks Kris for giving me this book all those years ago when I put it on the shelf unread. There came a moment in my life where I needed to remember how to be authentically committed to a person without being attached to a specific result; to be in the moment with my commitments but no expectations.
This book was sitting there on my shelf and gave me a little insight into how that might be possible. It is not a perfect book but then what book is? It really isn't all that buddhist for example. Also there are a few examples where the author clearly missed the point. It is not enough to breathe in suffering and breathe out love and compassion. Sometimes you need to get off your effing butt and tend to the wounded. That being said it's a fast read any you might get some value out of it if you are willing to keep what is worth keeping and blow the rest away.
Oh, the comfort -- The inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, Having neither to weigh thoughts, Nor measure words -- but pouring them All right out -- just as they are -- Chaff and grain together -- Certain that a faithful hand will Take and sift them -- Keep what is worth keeping -- and with the breath of kindness Blow the rest away.
View 1 comment. Jun 19, John rated it it was amazing. A practical and thoughtful dialogue. This book has somewhat hard to swallow advice that may change your life.
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It is informed by various spiritual traditions, and places the emphasis of relationships toward a questioned approach. What it is that you and your partner need. What can you do to open yourself up to finding someone. Who are you? What have you not accepted in the past, what does your intuition tell you about where you are right now. It was also helpful for me even though my focus is more A practical and thoughtful dialogue. It was also helpful for me even though my focus is more on jobs and finding work.
Some exercise were fun too like writing a personal ad based on your who you really are. Not something I try to be, but something that society tells us will give us control or power or happiness.
It also got you to write out what you really felt was your essence and how a partner could inform that, and how you could come to terms with growing within those conditions Mostly th I think the most important lesson is that is one of the noble truths taught in Buddhism and other spiritual traditions is that attachment leads to suffering.
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This book is a good way to gently guide us to exist with those emotions. To stay with fear, to stick with it. Aug 26, Alex rated it really liked it Shelves: This book caught my eye on the shelf at an interesting time: One thing that made the material in K This book caught my eye on the shelf at an interesting time: One thing that made the material in Kasl's "handbook" hard to digest was the unclear structure and a lack of relatable examples.
She elaborates on the experiences of many couples and individuals, but their realism doesn't truly resonate with the reader, because the characters, as it were, are so far removed from us.
This was, at least, my opinion. As such, many of the examples were forgettable, but the main takeaway for me had several levels: If the Buddha Dated was an excellent gateway to spiritual thought for me, and I think it has started me down a meaningful new path. Jun 18, Melissa rated it it was amazing.
This book is very enjoyable and supremely helpful to everyone I've known who's read it. It was highly recommended to me by a good friend about two years ago. I am about to read it again, for the third time! If you want to be open and honest with life and others, able to love them by first loving all parts of yourself and live compassionately, this book's for you! I promise it will help you to release some of your fears, false perceptions and worries. It really is so good as to make you want to r This book is very enjoyable and supremely helpful to everyone I've known who's read it.
It really is so good as to make you want to read it over an over again. There is another one by Kasl many called: If the Buddha Married but I am confident that this book is extremely practical and helpful to human beings, male or female, married or unmarried. Pass it on. Mar 29, Sylwia Wish Fulfillment rated it it was amazing Shelves: One of my main criterion for reviewing a book is to assess how much it has taught me.
For that, this book deserves many more than five stars, it deserves one for each chapter. I cried many times reading it and I feel that it has changed me. Sometimes I spend an entire day remembering a chapter. I cannot recommend this enough, to both singles and nonsingles. Apr 28, Colleen Wainwright rated it really liked it Shelves: I read this book every few years, usually around the time I think I'm ready for another relationship.
In other words, this is a sweet little book about traveling the Path, whether or not the Path takes you alongside someone else's Path. If it does, there are a number of lovely little essays and tools that may help you avert the crazy pitfalls you generally hit in or out of relationship; I read this book every few years, usually around the time I think I'm ready for another relationship.
If it does, there are a number of lovely little essays and tools that may help you avert the crazy pitfalls you generally hit in or out of relationship; if not, there's plenty of good, comforting, soul-satisfying material to keep you happily moving forward on your own. Nov 12, Laura rated it it was amazing Shelves: I attribute this book to the reason I met my husband! Excellent principles on focusing on what you want and sending the right messages into the Universe!
Oct 12, Moses rated it it was amazing. Despite a chic lit-ish sounding title, this is probably the most meaningful, profound, yet simple book I've read on approaching relationships from a spiritual perspective not just buddhism, as the author integrates sufism and quaker themes amongst others. Jul 19, Hannah rated it liked it. Okay, so, in all honestly, I'm really embarrassed to admit I read this book.
If there are two topics of public conversation that make me squirmy it's love and spirituality. And god forbid someone see me standing anywhere near the self-help section of a bookstore.
But, hey, a close, trusted friend recommended that I read this book and I'm really glad she did. But I was curious! I guess this is the part where I have to admit that I am newly in love and that, despite all the reasons to feel only so-so about this book, it was really great for critical self-examination and honest reflection.
This book gave me the tools to do the kind of work I was trying to do by myself. Reading this book and taking it to heart years ago would have saved me from a great deal of stress, aggravation, anxiety, and wasted time; but reading it now was a pleasant confirmation that I'm on the right track in my own development as a person and romantic partner. I found it to be a helpful catalyst for assessing my romantic situation honestly.
I would never presume to call myself a Buddhist; however, I found Buddhist philosophy to be a useful lens through which to view and evaluate love.
It was difficult for me to relate wholeheartedly to the concept of being "on a spiritual path," as well as some of the more woo-woo ideas about assessing compatibility astrological charts, handwriting analysis , but I took much more from this book than I put into it, so in that regard it is a success.
It's hard to face yourself full-on, and for me, even harder to admit it, but it's important work and this book was an accessible way to get there. Such an enlightening and enjoyable book on love, relationships and spirituality. In this book, the author mentions being aware of our needs and getting to know ourselves by realizing that our ego might be deceiving us to ensure we are safe from disappointment and novel experiences. For this reason, pursuing love without understanding who we are and what it is that we se Such an enlightening and enjoyable book on love, relationships and spirituality.
For this reason, pursuing love without understanding who we are and what it is that we seek in life will be pointless and whatever the relationship is, it will fall apart. The book has sections with quotes and wisdom from different philosophical backgrounds such as Sufism and Buddhism.
The author blended wise thoughts from these ancient traditions with the concept of modern day romance. But this book offers a different point by inviting us to find our inner desires and fears before anything else.
I believe this is a great book for those questioning themselves regarding the nature of love and relationships - especially for young people. Mar 31, Kate rated it really liked it Recommends it for: I read it as I was re-evaluating after an intense breakup and kind of messed up relationship, finding myself potentially launching into a new relationship. The book is part self-help, part Buddhist-y, and is made up of short chapters with different lessons to learn.
Meta-chapters walk you through the progression of a relationship. What I like about this book a lot is its emphasis on dealing with pain and becoming whole, in order t The title of this book sounds TOTALLY cheezy, but it is fantastic. I do, however, credit this book with helping me be compassionate with myself in the wake of an old relationship, and try to be fully present and open and honest in the face of a new one especially in terms of not playing games and keeping all my cards on the table.
Totally totally worth reading, especially considering how central romantic relationships tend to be in our lives. Jan 31, Arlian rated it did not like it. I was supposed to read this book for a class. I was VERY unhappy that this was assigned reading material, as it really has nothing to do with college class I am taking, more do to with my teachers weird-ass self. The book is filled with the kind of generic bullshit "re I was supposed to read this book for a class.
The book is filled with the kind of generic bullshit "religion" that white people in America seem to looooove.
Buddhism, Sufism, and Quakers all make appearances in this book. Blah blah blah, I don't care. Aug 04, Katie rated it really liked it.
If the Buddha dated : a handbook for finding love on a spiritual path
This book was an easy read, and I gained wisdom from it, I think. It discusses how to be the best mate you can be by reflecting inward and viewing the rest of the world through an eye on oneness. This type of teaching transcends just dating, and being single myself, I actually found it to be more about personal growth than "finding" a partner. I could discuss the personal things I learned from this book, but I'd rather not put them on the internet, haha.
There were certainly chapters that helped This book was an easy read, and I gained wisdom from it, I think. There were certainly chapters that helped me realize I need to work on myself and my attitudes towards dating. Realization is a beautiful thing, and I enjoy all types of spiritual reminders. This is an important book for all. May 13, Kim rated it really liked it. This is a wonderful little book that I probably never would have been searching to read.
I only read it because a friend, in passing, brought it to a class to lend it to someone, found that said friend already had it, and looked at me to say, "Hey! You actually might like this! It offered little pearls of wisdom along with gentle reminders about how to stay on our own path and stay true to ourselves should we enter This is a wonderful little book that I probably never would have been searching to read.
It offered little pearls of wisdom along with gentle reminders about how to stay on our own path and stay true to ourselves should we enter into a relationship. Zen and the art of falling in love. At once practical, playful, and spiritually sound, this book is about creating a new love story in your life.
Kasl, a practicing psychotherapist, workshop leader, and Reiki healer for thirty years, offers practical wisdom on using the path to love as a means of awakening. About The Author. Charlotte Kasl, Ph. The author of several books including Finding Joy, she lives in Lolo, Montana. Paperback Dimensions: February 1, Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group Language: The following ISBNs are associated with this title: Look for similar items by category: Books Family and Relationships Relationships.
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My go to book for many years Rated 5 out of 5 by Tania from Phenomenal This is a must read for anyone who wants to bring awareness, love and authenticity to their life and relationships. It is also great if you're still grieving or recovering from your previous relationship.
Highly recommended. Date published: Rated 5 out of 5 by Cara from My Bible Highly recommended to anyone who feels they have lost touch with their true selves and can't seem to meet the right partner in life. Full of insightful quotes, tips, and exercises, Buddha has become my sort of bible I refer to it whenever I need support or comfort, or am feeling frustrated or confused.
I always find something interesting to get me thinking. Extra Content. In her warm and honest book, If the Buddha Dated, Kasl offers compassionate advice for incorporating the wisdom and expansiveness of Zen into the love of your life. Kasl does a beautiful job weaving Eastern philosophy into modern day relationships.This king built in all about fifty centres for the Doctrine, of which thirty-five were centres for the study of the Prajnaparamita.
Our monk is probably reciting the sutra as his mouth seems slightly open as a small gap in between his lips suggest. The Four Agreements: Return to Book Page. The Drama of the Gifted Child. She told me the story of how she even came across the book.
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